As I mentioned before in my January 6, 2016 post, my wife (INFP) and I (INFJ) are like two peas in a pod. However, that one letter difference between J (judging) and P (perceiving) can be huge, if we don’t keep in mind how the other naturally functions.
Have you ever met anyone with a question machine gun? Although I appreciate the enthusiasm and interest, I can only answer one question at a time, and it takes me a while to process my answers. Please don’t get me flustered.
Whenever I go somewhere in my car by myself, my wife gives me three reminders: 1) take your phone, 2) don’t tailgate, and 3) no dreaming. Since the car is such a great mobile introvert idea incubation chamber, it’s so easy to get lost in my head on the road. Just for the record, however, I haven’t received a ticket in over 25 years.
I had a friend in college who wanted to hang out with me ALL the time. It was very smothering. Although it’s a special thing to find someone with whom you can be “alone together”, sometimes you just need to be ALONE alone. My wife and I (both introverts) understand this and have no problem giving the other space.
My wife and I are the new neighbors in the neighborhood, and we’ve had the pleasure of meeting several of the folks who live here. Fortunately, they are all VERY lovely, kind, and considerate. I even suspect some to be introverts themselves. It’s always a little scary coming into a new situation. It’s not like you can interview everyone before moving in. I’ve never been into actively socializing with neighbors, but I do have a great need to keep things friendly and pleasant.
It takes me enough energy to even go to an event with a lot of people present. Please don’t ask me to be rowdy too. This happened to me most recently at a poetry reading. Yeah, that’s right – a poetry reading of all places!